If you follow me on Instagram then you know that David and I were in Wisconsin Dells this past weekend…
without Kit.
We dropped her off at her grandparents and skipped out of town like the two lovebirds that we are.
Don’t get me wrong, I DEFINITELY cried as we pulled away. This wasn’t the first time I’ve left Kit for a few days, but it was the first time that both David and I have been away from her at the same time.
For the record, she did just fine… even though I had visions of her weeping the whole time because she can’t survive without me. #mamacomplex
But you know what? It was one of the best weekends I’ve had in a long time. I think we really needed that time to give each other our undivided attention. We came away from the weekend feeling so refreshed and rejuvenated.
It made me realize how important it is to prioritize marriage.
Starting a family is such a fun, new adventure. It’s crazy and scary and so, so overwhelming.
And somewhere along the way it becomes so easy to stop prioritizing the relationship that started it all. What came so naturally before, suddenly becomes something you have to work at.
I don’t think that’s a bad thing. I think it’s a sign that your relationship is growing and maturing.
Because anything is easy at first when you’re brimming with passion and excitement, but it’s a lot harder when reality sets in and that excitement has cooled.
But you know what? It’s pushing through the stagnant times that makes you that 90 year old couple still holding hands and sneaking kisses.
And I want that.
So David and I made a pact to continue to prioritize our marriage and get away together whenever we can steal a few days. It may be hard, but it’s so worth it.
And 50 years from now, we’ll still be those same two giddy lovebirds making each other giggle and enjoying each other’s company.
Until next time,
I wish the same from my marriage. More than material pursuits, I Cherish my husband’s loving glance. I wish you have a blissful married life.
Well said Ratisha! And thank you! I wish the same for you!
I just love your blog. This post is beautiful. My husband and I don’t have children (I am not sure if we ever will), but prioritizing our marriage can be a struggle for us too. It sounds like y’all had a great time.
Thank you Jessica! You are so sweet! It definitely can be hard no matter what the distraction is.
Ah!!! I love this! Putting first things first is a constant struggle for everyone. Marriage is definitely one of those things that you have to put first and I feel like if you do, other parts of life will fall into place.
It definitely is Katy! And thank you! I completely agree.
We have the chance to get away for a night for an upcoming marriage. Due to small kids and bed sharing, this will be the first night in SIX years where I am not sleeping with a kid in the bed. I’m beyond excited although anxious about being away. But did I mention I’m EXCITED?! So glad you guys got away!
Wow! So exciting Sarah!! I hope you have the best time!
I love this post! I think too many couples lose sight of the importance of putting the marriage first when they start a family. This is an excellent reminder of the long-term!
Thanks Marie!
Agreed! It’s so important! The kids are important too, but you and your spouse came first, and will last long after the kids leave. It is so great that you got time away (I am totally jealous), since we haven’t gotten more than a night away from the kids for 18 months, and that was for our 10 anniversary! Start planning your next trip away, and have so much fun together!
I completely agree Leah! Hopefully you’ll be able to get away soon!
So important to make marriage a priority! Thanks for sharing!
You’re welcome Jackie!
I love this! I don’t have kids yet, but I love this reminder to constantly prioritize your marriage. So so good.
Thanks Kristen!
Isn’t it delightful when you can leave your kiddos with a trusted relative or friend to enjoy a bit of adult time? When my girls were small we would trade off with my sister- and brother-in-law who had two girls the same ages as ours. The kids looked forward to spending a fun week in Santa Cruz, CA with their cousins doing awesome activities. That week would be called “Camp DeGuzman”. Then we would host the girlies at our home in Sacramento with a whole lineup of fun activities. Those times were memorable time for everyone, and we adults had the opportunity to enjoy the freedom of it being just the two of us!
It really is Denay! That’s such a great idea and such fun memories for your kids as well!
Great post! We are lucky enough to have all the grandparents and lots of family right in town, so we’ve taken advantage of all the babysitters from early on. Date nights or weekends away are so important and I love the relationship my kids have with their grandparents…they love sleepovers!
That is so nice that you have that! We definitely don’t, but thanks to FaceTime we can still cultivate those relationships.
Such a great reminder. We have a nine-month old, and our relationship can definitely get put on the back burner. But it’s success is crucial to our happy little family.
It can be so hard can’t it?! I always try to remind myself of that: that it’s actually BEST for Kit.
Great post! I’m not married, but I definitely see the importance in couples making time to prioritize their marriage. It’s so great that you and your husband were able to get away and spend some quality time with just the two of you.
Thanks Crystal! We did have a really good time!
I think parents often make the mistake of putting the kiddo first – bravo for you guys for putting each other first!
Thanks Chloe! It’s definitely something we have to work at!
So happy to hear that you had a lovely weekend. Spending time away from the kids & re-charging with your husband is sooo important!
Thanks Chrystie! We’re definitely learning that!
I’m so glad y’all were able to break away from your ‘normal’ to enjoy each other’s company! It can be easy to get swept away in a routine that you neglect the relationship that started it all. I’m so glad y’all got a recharge! It looks beautiful where y’all went!
Thanks Erin! It was so good! And you’re right… it’s so easy to forget about the most important part of the family… our relationship and it’s strength!
This post is so beautiful and true! Prioritizing marriage is something that is so easy to forget to do, but so important! Thankfully little things go a long, way. So glad you got to have this time!
Thanks Cassandra! You’re so right… I’m sure you’re adventure will bring you and your husband closer together!
The importance of prioritizing your marriage always seems to get harder after you have children… but you definitely have to do it… or else things will fall apart. Loved this post!
XoXo,
Esther G
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So true Esther! And thank you!
Aww this is beautiful. I’m inspired and glad you had a lovely weekend together <3
Thank you Hayley! It was kind of the best!
I love this! My husband’s grandparents would sometimes bicker in their old age but they snuggled up and spooned in bed every night until they died. Being in it for the long haul can be tough but it’s so so rewarding. <3